I've been thinking about it since he died, and I have a few things to say. Before I start, know that understanding weakness is not the same as condoning abuse. Rationalizing an old man's inability to deal with the situation is not the same thing as saying that the old man thought it was OK. Also, understand that those who shout the loudest often know the least, especially about themselves. That said ... Everyone folds. By that, I mean that everyone has moments of weakness, when we either do nothing when we know we should do something, or when we do less than we know we should. I have stepped up and defended weaker people a number of times, but I haven't done it every time. Does that make me a coward? If my neighbor hits his wife, and I report it, have I done enough? If the cops let him go, and that neighbor kills his wife a year later, should I go to jail? If that neighbor works for me, should I lose my job? I think Joe was looking for someone to say "I'll take it from here." I think he wanted nothing to do with what happened, and he didn't want to believe his friend could do or have done what it is now obvious that he did. I think Joe made a mistake. I think he folded. I think he had a lot of company in doing so. And I'll bet most guys on this site are currently dodging something they know they should handle right now. Maybe someone's and addict and we know about it. Maybe someone else cheats, hits, or steals, and we do nothing. Maybe these someones are close to us, are our responsibility even, and we do nothing, or very little. Everyone folds. If you're a stand up guy every minute of every day, then you'll be the first I ever met, though I'm sure most here will falsely claim to be just that. So I have two things to say. First, those of you who like to talk about what happened with sentences that begin with "I woulda ..." don't know what you're talking about. You may have an idea what you would like yourself to do, but you don't know anything. I worked in a lot of bars in my youth. Guys who talk that way are the first guys to stare down at their beers when something jumps off. Talk means nothing. No one knows until they have no other choice but to find out. Read that last sentence again, please. I think Joe was strong. I think he was a role model. I think he deserves to be blamed in a significant way for what happened, but he didn't and doesn't deserve what we're doing to him now. He did something. He just didn't do enough. He allowed out of sight to be out of mind - and anyone propping up an addict in the family knows exactly how this works. It's shameful, but we killed him for it, and that's too much. Understand that we as a culture like nothing more than the fall of greatness. From ancient greek tragedy to modern reality TV, we delight in having fame and fortune to tear apart. That's why, even though there are many people who turned a blind eye, many of whom had more direct power to deal with the situation than Joe did, we only blame Joe. He's the famous one, after all. No need to know the names of the campus police guys or the names of the Board of Trustees, or the President. They're not as much fun to tear down. For every Tebow fan out there, there are two people hoping beyond hope that he gets picked up with drugs on him while soliciting a hooker. It's just what we are, and it's sad that we do the things we do. I think Jerry Sandusky deserves everything he gets and more. I think Joe already got way more than he had coming, and history will likely judge us harshly for what we've done. Make no mistake. We killed a man the other day. We should be as willing to accept blame for that as we are to dispense blame to others.